Handling Blogging Criticism

Different But Effective Way to Handle Blogging Criticism

This post is a guest post contribution written by Ryan Biddulph.

A few minutes ago someone remarked how at the time only 2 people were viewing my Periscope live video.

The user said I was a loser and should quit. Or something to that effect.

The old, struggling blogger me would have either fought the guy or crawled into a cyber cave after the incident, an embarrassed, shamed wreck. The new me knows better.

I have seen, experienced and felt enough criticism in my day to understand the saying “Don’t feed the trolls” but of course this wisdom is tough to follow while recording videos in a live setting.

So how do I handle blogging criticism? Especially when someone seems particularly mean, angry or nasty?

Pardon my French, but I finally understood that these critics are not pr*cks but they are in pain.

Pain and Fear

Happy people do not trawl forums, YouTube, Periscope or blogs doling out nasty criticism. Happy people and happy bloggers spend their time and energy having fun, spreading love and lifting people up.

Only people who are suffering through some fear-based pain criticize others nastily. These people are not really jerks or trolls; they are in pain, and just like an animal in pain, they lash out. But their lashing out usually occurs in the form of criticizing others for any range of issues.

The criticism this morning had nothing to do with me and my low viewership at the time. It may have not even been a jealousy issue. But it was 100% related to this human being’s pain and suffering because only a fearful, pained, suffering person devotes their time and energy to trying to get someone’s goat or start a fight through pretty criticism.

Why Not Get Angry At Critics?

How can I fight a pained, afraid person? It would be like kicking a dog when he is down, or stomping on a cat’s tail when it is walking around with casts on its 2 front legs.

I didn’t get angry at the human being this morning because their criticism had nothing to do with me and everything to do with their pain and fear. Because you can only be in pain if you are suffering from some deep fear.

I felt compassion for the individual and moved on. Not my job to be a savior, or teacher. All I can do is note how all blogging critics are pained, afraid people who lash out in their suffering through criticizing, which has nothing to do with me.

What About Positive Criticism?

Some well-meaning but unhappy folks may offer you sarcastic or biting criticism that is wrapped up in a vinegar coating but is really sugary, honey-sweet feedback that can grow your blogging traffic and profits.

Only you and your intuition knows who offers legitimate, helpful feedback and who is trying to pull you down with their nasty barbs.

I personally see all sharp criticism with a wary eye because I know that if someone offers their advice in a negative or nasty light that their fear and pain prevents them from seeing my blog clearly. Almost like a Brahma bull in a fit of rage, you cannot see anything clearly and offer the best, most constructive feedback when you are upset.

As a rule of thumb I listen to positive, uplifting feedback and process it if the individual offers their opinion from a helpful, loving space and ignore everything else, feedback-wise.

Different?

This is a different way to frame blogging criticism.

Some folks advise you not to feed the trolls, starving critics of their attention and energy, which is good advice.

Other fools advise you to prove critics wrong, which is about as intelligent and productive as trying to convince a Great White Shark to move its home from the ocean to the Sahara Desert.

This different approach helps you see a critic for who they are: unhappy people projecting their pain on you. Knowing this you can lose all fear of blogging critics and you may even be able to help them and your fellow blogger by writing a post like this 🙂

 

Ryan Biddulph

About Author: Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.

 

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10 Comments

  • Oh, Ryan, I LOVE this post and your approach to dealing with negative or critical comments! Let me share a quick story – I know you’ve written books so you’ll appreciate it. When I wrote my first book I was thrilled with all of the glowing reviews, and then there was the inevitable stinker. He didn’t criticize the writing or content, he said I had filled the book with quotations as a ploy to make the book look like more than it was and that showed what amateur I was. Dozens of positive reviews but that was the one that was burned into my mind and when I could let it go I actually edited all of the quotations out of my book and had it republished. Not 24 hours later I received an email from a reader who’d purchased the original version with heartfelt thanks for the beautiful quotations in my book because so many of them spoke to her feelings. Ugh! I realized how foolish I’d been to react to one comment and ended up going back to the original version. Embarrassing lesson to learn but after that, I was able to deal with feedback without a knee-jerk reaction so at least something good came from it.
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  • Hi Ryan,

    Very wise words about handling criticism and understanding the pain behind these people’s actions.

    Like the old you, I would have been hurt, in a live recording scenario (I’m not even brave enough to do that LOL).

    This is the blogger who was gutted to lose her first list subscriber 🙂 But now I’ve grown enough to react differently, and not get upset about critics and unsubscribers. They have their own problems 🙂

    Well handled!

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

  • Hi Ryan,

    You have published an exceptional blogging blood tonic most bloggers need to read. I must confess that it is a masterpiece.

    I am a practical disciple of this school of thought and it has been my mentor of a sort’ “What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business.” Nikhil made mention of this quote. With this quote, I practically keep focus on my life and my blogging business.
    Thanks for sharing
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  • Hi Ryan,
    Good to see you here again. You always provide a good information in each of your posts.
    In this post too, you have sharted some fo the amazing tips.
    Thanks for the share.

  • Fantastic post. It can be tough to receive criticisms when you spend so much time and effort on your blog, but these tips certainly help!

  • Thanks Ryan, for your valuable tips.I would like to say a lot of thanks for these knowledge sharing tips.😀👏

  • Hey, Ryan. Great to see you on Cost Effective SEO.

    You made a wise choice. People at their most fragile times make certain mistakes, an experienced person has the wisdom to ignore such feed backs.

    On LinkedIn, I have seen people making a big fuss about other peoples mistakes, I admit that the person had made a mistake, but escalating the incident to blemish a persons reputation in a professional platforms doesn’t sound great.

    Constructive criticisms help an individual to realise that a bit of fine tuning is required, a smooth touch to make it more appreciable.

  • Amir Najam Sethit

    Thank you for posting this fantastic article. I satisfied reading this article because it’s positive post.

  • Hey Ryan,

    I appreciate this article!

    Once I read a QUOTE that touches my mind:

    “What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business.”

    Thanks for this blog post!
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  • Hey Ryan,

    This is a million dollar post which covers one of the main topics everyone should be reading.

    Millions of bloggers are trying to stand out in the crowd but only a few of them come to know the real way.

    Providing the content worth reading, the user-friendly atmosphere is always required.

    Knowing about the crowd around you depending on the niche you write about can help you a lot.

    User satisfaction is always what you should consider at its best.

    Thanks for sharing with us.

    Have a great day.

    Piyush matta

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