Handling Blogging Criticism

Different But Effective Way to Handle Blogging Criticism

This post is a guest post contribution written by Ryan Biddulph.

A few minutes ago someone remarked how at the time only 2 people were viewing my Periscope live video.

The user said I was a loser and should quit. Or something to that effect.

The old, struggling blogger me would have either fought the guy or crawled into a cyber cave after the incident, an embarrassed, shamed wreck. The new me knows better.

I have seen, experienced and felt enough criticism in my day to understand the saying “Don’t feed the trolls” but of course this wisdom is tough to follow while recording videos in a live setting.

So how do I handle blogging criticism? Especially when someone seems particularly mean, angry or nasty?

Pardon my French, but I finally understood that these critics are not pr*cks but they are in pain.

Pain and Fear

Happy people do not trawl forums, YouTube, Periscope or blogs doling out nasty criticism. Happy people and happy bloggers spend their time and energy having fun, spreading love and lifting people up.

Only people who are suffering through some fear-based pain criticize others nastily. These people are not really jerks or trolls; they are in pain, and just like an animal in pain, they lash out. But their lashing out usually occurs in the form of criticizing others for any range of issues.

The criticism this morning had nothing to do with me and my low viewership at the time. It may have not even been a jealousy issue. But it was 100% related to this human being’s pain and suffering because only a fearful, pained, suffering person devotes their time and energy to trying to get someone’s goat or start a fight through pretty criticism.

Why Not Get Angry At Critics?

How can I fight a pained, afraid person? It would be like kicking a dog when he is down, or stomping on a cat’s tail when it is walking around with casts on its 2 front legs.

I didn’t get angry at the human being this morning because their criticism had nothing to do with me and everything to do with their pain and fear. Because you can only be in pain if you are suffering from some deep fear.

I felt compassion for the individual and moved on. Not my job to be a savior, or teacher. All I can do is note how all blogging critics are pained, afraid people who lash out in their suffering through criticizing, which has nothing to do with me.

What About Positive Criticism?

Some well-meaning but unhappy folks may offer you sarcastic or biting criticism that is wrapped up in a vinegar coating but is really sugary, honey-sweet feedback that can grow your blogging traffic and profits.

Only you and your intuition knows who offers legitimate, helpful feedback and who is trying to pull you down with their nasty barbs.

I personally see all sharp criticism with a wary eye because I know that if someone offers their advice in a negative or nasty light that their fear and pain prevents them from seeing my blog clearly. Almost like a Brahma bull in a fit of rage, you cannot see anything clearly and offer the best, most constructive feedback when you are upset.

As a rule of thumb I listen to positive, uplifting feedback and process it if the individual offers their opinion from a helpful, loving space and ignore everything else, feedback-wise.

Different?

This is a different way to frame blogging criticism.

Some folks advise you not to feed the trolls, starving critics of their attention and energy, which is good advice.

Other fools advise you to prove critics wrong, which is about as intelligent and productive as trying to convince a Great White Shark to move its home from the ocean to the Sahara Desert.

This different approach helps you see a critic for who they are: unhappy people projecting their pain on you. Knowing this you can lose all fear of blogging critics and you may even be able to help them and your fellow blogger by writing a post like this 🙂

 

Ryan Biddulph

About Author: Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.

 

Hussain Omar has built his expertise as a knowledgeable and experienced SEO strategist, he’s the founder of Hustaw SEO, and the guy behind this blog. An addict to anything related to SEO, Search Engine Marketing, Internet Marketing, and Blogging.

20 Comments

  • There are many ways to handle criticism whether on a blog, in a conversation or in any other area of life. One thing is universal…do not let criticism get you down.
    Elise Cohen Ho recently posted…Latino Blogger Carlos Aguilar, Big Brown Dad, Featured At UWP ConferenceMy Profile

  • Hi Hussain & Ryan,

    Good call on a guest blogger, Hussain! I’m with you Ryan, about haters and their pain. We can’t fix them so it’s best to ignore them.
    Edward
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  • Hi Hussain and Ryan,

    I’ve never really thought of it the way you look at it, Ryan, but it does make a lot of sense. I just had an offensive reply to a question I asked; no big deal; block and done. A few years ago, that would have devastated me wondering what I did wrong to provoke such a response.

    I think we (the happy ones) just as you said, need to feel for their pain but not acknowledge it and move on spreading our happiness to those who will accept it.

    Thank you for the thought provoking post. 🙂
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  • Hi Ryan,

    Great to see you here on Hussain’s blog. Oh criticism. I ignore all of them, because there is no use in trying to reason. They are in their bubble of pain or discontent and I’m in mine lol. The old me (very old me) would be hiding under a rock. But business is business and when we are out there in cyber land, there will be some that have nothing else to do but criticize.

    The best advice is the one you have given …. just ignore them, eventually they go away. On the other hand, positive criticism is always welcomed. “Hey….why don’t you….” and they are actually there to help.

    -Donna
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  • Hi Ryan and Hussain,
    There is so much negativity in the world and those that lash out at you, really are unhappy with themselves. It’s easier to criticize someone else than to change your own mindset. Feedback offered in a positive way is far more valuable …

    • Hi Lesly,
      Yes, there is so much negativity in our world, but time is a limited and valuable source, there is no point waste it with people other than those who live in the positive side.

      Thanks for visiting and commenting!

      Regards
      Hussain

  • Hi Ryan,
    Great post and a very wise way to handle criticism. What a “sad” person to go about just bringing others down.
    I remember once when I was being bullied at school, my Mum commented that the nasty remarks said more about the bully than about me. I didn’t understand at the time, but I do now.
    Joy – Blogging After Dark
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    • Hi Joy,
      Glad you liked Ryan’s post on my humble blog. There are a lot of things that we don’t understand at the time. Day by day, we get the answers, but unfortunately, sometimes we get them the hard way.

      Thanks for stopping by, Joy!

      Regards
      Hussain

  • Hi Ryan,
    You show a very good understanding of people here. I do know someone who always has something negative to say about all most everything. She is her own worst enemy. I do see her commenting online and now I see that it is her pain talking and I feel differently about her and people like her. Thanks for the perspective. Great article.

    • You are right, Kathryn. We face this kind of people everyday, and yes they are their own enemy.

  • What a wonderful way of thinking about it and the fact that person must be feeling rotten to tear others down. Wise advice Ryan and next time you are on Periscope I will be listening in

    • Indeed, Amber. Ryan nailed it.
      Thanks for stopping by!!

      Regards
      Hussain

  • Hi Ryan, Wonderful thoughts and you have the very good understanding about people and their pain. Thanks for sharing
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    • Hi Sazia!
      Great to see you here again 🙂
      Glad that you liked Ryan’s post.

      Cheers!
      Hussain

  • Thanks Hussain!
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