Handling Blogging Criticism

Different But Effective Way to Handle Blogging Criticism

This post is a guest post contribution written by Ryan Biddulph.

A few minutes ago someone remarked how at the time only 2 people were viewing my Periscope live video.

The user said I was a loser and should quit. Or something to that effect.

The old, struggling blogger me would have either fought the guy or crawled into a cyber cave after the incident, an embarrassed, shamed wreck. The new me knows better.

I have seen, experienced and felt enough criticism in my day to understand the saying “Don’t feed the trolls” but of course this wisdom is tough to follow while recording videos in a live setting.

So how do I handle blogging criticism? Especially when someone seems particularly mean, angry or nasty?

Pardon my French, but I finally understood that these critics are not pr*cks but they are in pain.

Pain and Fear

Happy people do not trawl forums, YouTube, Periscope or blogs doling out nasty criticism. Happy people and happy bloggers spend their time and energy having fun, spreading love and lifting people up.

Only people who are suffering through some fear-based pain criticize others nastily. These people are not really jerks or trolls; they are in pain, and just like an animal in pain, they lash out. But their lashing out usually occurs in the form of criticizing others for any range of issues.

The criticism this morning had nothing to do with me and my low viewership at the time. It may have not even been a jealousy issue. But it was 100% related to this human being’s pain and suffering because only a fearful, pained, suffering person devotes their time and energy to trying to get someone’s goat or start a fight through pretty criticism.

Why Not Get Angry At Critics?

How can I fight a pained, afraid person? It would be like kicking a dog when he is down, or stomping on a cat’s tail when it is walking around with casts on its 2 front legs.

I didn’t get angry at the human being this morning because their criticism had nothing to do with me and everything to do with their pain and fear. Because you can only be in pain if you are suffering from some deep fear.

I felt compassion for the individual and moved on. Not my job to be a savior, or teacher. All I can do is note how all blogging critics are pained, afraid people who lash out in their suffering through criticizing, which has nothing to do with me.

What About Positive Criticism?

Some well-meaning but unhappy folks may offer you sarcastic or biting criticism that is wrapped up in a vinegar coating but is really sugary, honey-sweet feedback that can grow your blogging traffic and profits.

Only you and your intuition knows who offers legitimate, helpful feedback and who is trying to pull you down with their nasty barbs.

I personally see all sharp criticism with a wary eye because I know that if someone offers their advice in a negative or nasty light that their fear and pain prevents them from seeing my blog clearly. Almost like a Brahma bull in a fit of rage, you cannot see anything clearly and offer the best, most constructive feedback when you are upset.

As a rule of thumb I listen to positive, uplifting feedback and process it if the individual offers their opinion from a helpful, loving space and ignore everything else, feedback-wise.

Different?

This is a different way to frame blogging criticism.

Some folks advise you not to feed the trolls, starving critics of their attention and energy, which is good advice.

Other fools advise you to prove critics wrong, which is about as intelligent and productive as trying to convince a Great White Shark to move its home from the ocean to the Sahara Desert.

This different approach helps you see a critic for who they are: unhappy people projecting their pain on you. Knowing this you can lose all fear of blogging critics and you may even be able to help them and your fellow blogger by writing a post like this 🙂

 

Ryan Biddulph

About Author: Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.

 

Hussain Omar has built his expertise as a knowledgeable and experienced SEO strategist, he’s the founder of Hustaw SEO, and the guy behind this blog. An addict to anything related to SEO, Search Engine Marketing, Internet Marketing, and Blogging.

7 Comments

  • Great article Ryan!

    Has ever blog criticism touched you and damaged your morale?

    Kind regards,
    Filip

  • Hello, Ryan!

    Brother, that’s indeed the good content (as always)!

    Criticism is the negativity. People criticising the efforts of others are actually those who’ve no will to make their own place in the world.

    They hate doing anything. They hate becoming something.

    Thus, they hate others succeeding in their domains.

    If anyone ever wants to hand a criticism, why not be it the constructive one? To let the other buddy know how he (or she) can do better and good.

    And what went wrong. Let it be correcting the situation.

    So….. Indeed the fab. post, brother! Surely it is! 🙂

    ~ Adeel
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  • Hi Hussain,

    Fortunately, I haven’t had the nasty comments yet. I have had people point out something that needs clarification or an error or update but it’s always been in a helpful way. Thanks for the blog. I will remember your comments if ever nasty criticisms come my way. Yup – take it with a grain of salt. : )
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  • Hi Ryan

    It all depends on how we take criticism as you shared brilliantly. There will alwas be those who will judge us for our work but it is our job to sift through the dirt and gather gold. Some people are just mean with their words but that’s their issue.

    Thanks for sharing. Take care

  • Great post Ryan! It’s so true that people who lash out are in pain. When you realize that it’s easy to let their comments go and not take it personally. The older I get, the more I realize that nothing is really personal.. everything someone says to you is a reflection of their state of mind. All we can do is choose how we react to it.
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  • Hi Hussain,
    Great, Ryan did bless you with a nice post as well.
    You are right Ryan, usually, people who judge and criticize have a problem with themselves. Better not to pay much attention and move on. Nobody should be discouraged by this.
    I know this is easier to say than to do. You did bring your experience in here, which will help.
    A nice quote 🙂 “A critic is a legless man who teaches other people to run”- Channing Pollock

  • Hey Hussain! What a nice surprise to see Ryan here this morning and what a great topic! We all have some a long way HUH? It is funny when I look back and wonder why I was afraid to hear what others say! HEHE Now I just laugh it off.

    Great Share Fella’s!!
    Chery :))

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